Tsuyoshi-kun @ 2years 1month

Wahhh dah ada angka 2 dah kat awal usia dia, besar dah onichan yer...

Banyak sangat nak cerita kalau nak update satu2 pasal dia, dah banyak benda dia boleh buat, most of the times dia berjaya buat kami kagum dengannya, tiba2 mak bapak dia kandou(feeling) lebih2, kes oyabaka lah ni, haha... Untuk entry kali ni, I highlight 2points sajalah!

Yang pasti Rafiqh sekarang makin petah berkata2, dah pandai bagi dan jawab salam bila sampai rumah. Sekarang tengah ajar dia on how to greet people, say "assalammualaikum" to muslims and "ohaiyo gozaimasu/konnichiwa/konbanwa" to japanese. Aisatsu(=greeting) ni salah satu budaya jepun, sangatlah beradab dan bersopan-santun, cute sangat tengok budak2 pandai aisatsu orang. Bercakap words lain2 tu banyak dah yang dia boleh sebut, tak sabar pulak nak tunggu dia pandai 'berbual', mesti meriah rumah ni bersoal-jawab dengan dia, hihi...

Kalau dalam entry milestone dia sebelum ni I mentioned about his new bad habit of throwing tantrums and I did promised to write about it, tak sempat nak habis tulis lagi I guess dia dah slow down perangai mengamuk dia tu dah, alhamdulillah really lega yang amat sangat. You guys mesti tau kan betapa seksanya nak layan kerenah amukan anak2 ni, boleh naik meroyan dan separuh gila mak bapak kalau tak cukup sabar nak tackle perangai mengamuk ni, tapi syukur amat sangat he has stopped driving me nuts!

I know its perfectly normal for toddlers at his age to throw tantrums cause that's how they express their feelings, but still I don't agree with the idea of just let them do whatever they want to do whenever they're unhappy. Expressing emotions is healthy, even when they aren't happy ones. Their feelings are transparent, it's soo tempting if we want to keep things happy for them at all times. And it's also important for them to experience emotions like sadness, frustration, anger yada2 so that they can learn to cope better with their future life. So I believe we as parents have the right and responsibility to guide and teach them the proper ways on how to express their emotions. Whether we like it or not, we have to let them know that it's okey to be unhappy sometimes, it's okey to have such the negative emotions cause it's simply part of life. For example, mereka mungkin mengamuk kerana berasa "oh hidup ni tak adil" bila their mom pays more attention to their little siblings, so we have to label their feelings "you got all my attention when you was a baby, you can't get the same attention all the times, yes life is not always fair, we have to learn to tolerate with each others bla3" and tell them that they're not the only ones who feel such that feeling, kita adults pun ada masanya rasa kecewa, rasa sedih, rasa marah etc. etc... Somehow slowly mereka akan faham 'lumrahnya' bad emotions dan belajar mengatasinya in their own better ways...

Ada jugak ibubapa yang merasakan membiarkan anak2 melepaskan amarah/emosi mereka dengan cara mereka tersendiri adalah tindakan paling mudah dan baik. Ok fine kalau dia takat ngamuk dalam rumah ja, what if kalau kat public pun dia buat hal, tak sakit jiwa ka? Kita pun tak suka tengok anak orang buat hal kan, takkan kita assume orang suka tengok perangai anak kita? heh! Yes, I have to admit I'm not a good momma, yang boleh tengok ja anak buat perangai, yang boleh sengih ja layan segala mak-nenek kehendak anak, yang berlapang hati bila anak baling hawing barang, hempas2 badan, gedegung-gedegang pintu, jerit2 pukul2 I or whatnot, oh its soo not me! Seriously hari tu memang I tensyen sangat2, apa tak nya, even for a very tiny simple thing pun dia boleh mengamuk tak-tentu-hala-punca, serabut sungguh kepala otak ni. Sekarang ni I think he learns his lesson lah! After what he did and we did, may be dia dah tak berani nak tunjuk perangai tu lagi... Though he still tak boleh 'luahkan' apa perasaan dia, I still tak faham kenapa kadang2 tiba2 dia moody, but somehow lately dia boleh calm down in other ways, legaaa no more 'drama'...

So Rafiqh onichan, please behave, your momma sometimes could turn to be a monster!!!

That's all for now, selamat berhari minggu!